When our son,
Andrew, was little, he was such a sound sleeper that he barely moved. We'd
often watch to see if his chest rose and fell to make sure he was still alive.
The worst time was
when he was 13 years old.
In 2000, Keith and I had
gone on a date, while fifteen-year-old Christina, our
oldest daughter, babysat our six youngest children. We enjoyed a
peaceful, relaxing evening away from our busy family, only to return home to an
astonishing turn of events.
10:15 p.m. We walked in the house to find Christina downstairs
reading. We assumed the other kids were upstairs in bed. When asked how things
had gone that night, Christina said, "Okay."
Eleven-year-old
Kiah walked downstairs and said, "Has Andrew come back yet?"
"What do you
mean?" Keith asked. "Isn't he here?"
Christina sighed
and put down her book, "I'm not sure." Seems while the cat's away,
the mice will...fight. Christina explained that she had a big fight with Andrew and he had grabbed a
sleeping bag and stomped out of the house, saying that "He was going where no one could find him."
We left Kiah
inside with the sleeping younger children, and took Christina outside to help
look for Andrew.
Our eight acres
were surrounded by 160 acres of soybeans. There wasn't much moonlight and our
big yard light only illuminated so far. We looked for thirty minutes then
called a neighbor who came over with a searchlight. We yelled and shined
our flashlights all over the place. No Andrew.
We hoped he hadn't
gone into our three-acre grove. Navigating our thick,
tangled, overgrown grove at night would be nearly impossible. After an
hour of searching, thirty minutes by ourselves, and thirty minutes with the
neighbor, we started to panic. Where was he?
11:30 - The police wouldn't help until we had called Andrew's closest friends
to see if he'd gone to their houses. His friends lived five miles away. Surely
he hadn't walked to town?
We felt foolish
calling people that late at night, but his friends hadn't seen him. We wondered what they thought of us? How do you lose
a child from your house?
11:45 - Andrew had been missing for two hours. A police officer showed up with a bigger, more powerful
searchlight. He grilled Christina who had been the last person to see
him. We all yelled Andrew's name, shining lights everywhere.
12:15 - We were panicked. Was he hurt somewhere? Perhaps unconscious? Was he
hiding and purposely not answering? Had he run away? The policeman offered to
call in a bloodhound.
I rested my head
on our van's steering wheel and prayed, "God, you know where he is. Please
help us find him."
I shone headlights
into the soybean field again. Between the van and soybeans stood an old white
picnic table. I looked hard at the table and thought it looked thicker than
normal.
I walked over to
the table, overjoyed to see Andrew sleeping on it. I drove off to find Keith.
We drove back and parked five feet from the table. Keith honked the horn a few
times to alert the searchers that we had finally found Andrew. We kept the
headlights shining on him, amazed that he was still sleeping.
How had we missed
him before? Andrew was small for his age
and very skinny. Wearing a black stocking cap and snuggled down inside a black
sleeping bag, his small size and black bag had made him almost invisible.
I
called his name a couple times, thinking he should go inside and sleep in his
bed. Since he was obviously in a deep sleep, totally oblivious to the activity
going on around him, Keith said to let him sleep where he was.
What was more
unbelievable? That we had looked for two and half hours for someone who was
sleeping fifty feet from the house or that Andrew had slept through people
yelling his name, cars driving on and off our property, lights shining
everywhere, and the van's horn honking five feet from his head.
We thanked our
neighbor and the policeman and sent them home, everyone relieved that the lost
had been found. A few hours with a missing child was awful. I can't imagine
what parents who never find their children go through.
The next morning
was sunny and peaceful. Keith watched out the kitchen window as Andrew woke up.
His little head poked out of the sleeping bag and he looked around, disoriented
to where he was and why. Andrew walked inside and Keith asked how he had slept.
Andrew yawned and
said, "Fine." He had absolutely no recollection of all the chaos he
had caused.
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I was reluctant to
go on future dates. Keith thought it vital that we take time for us and sternly
warned the kids that there would be no more monkey business while Mom and Dad
were gone.
Unfortunately this
episode didn't cure the kids of fighting. They had a few more
"incidents" but I am happy to say that our kids have grown up to like
each other and are good friends now.
I see Andrew
watching his four-month-old daughter sleeping and when he leans closer to make
sure she's still breathing. I smile and think, "What goes around, comes
around."
This is a good story Angie, I was worried during the search for Andrew as I read. I also cannot fathom the grief and loss of a family who have a missing child. That just strikes terror in my heart. It's beautiful to see your family grow into loving, caring adults.
ReplyDeleteYou did a great job telling this fun story. Hey, I have missed you. Did Ashland get dumped on with snow? I bet Amy is happy to ski!
ReplyDeleteI loved this story!
ReplyDeleteOH my goodness..! I had chills reading this! How terrifying that would have been to not be able to locate your child! Somehow, I think even being deaf, I would have woken up at the ruckus :)
ReplyDeleteIt's really something sweet to see how he now can understand a bit more what parenting him might have been like, now that he's a parent. He should probably buckle up, huh? :)